Many people believe that bilingualism is an “all or nothing” pursuit, where anything less than perfect fluency in two languages falls short of being truly bilingual. This mindset puts a lot of pressure on parents and can discourage many from trying to raise bilingual children. For example, a child might understand their parents’ native language but prefer to respond in English. Rather than being recognized for their bilingual abilities, they might be unfairly viewed as “not really bilingual.”
To take perspective, we need to dismantle this “gold standard” of bilingualism that demands native-like fluency in both languages. Bilingualism is not a rigid benchmark but exists on a spectrum, where every level of proficiency holds unique value. Languages themselves are dynamic and alive, constantly shifting and evolving, which makes each step in a bilingual journey meaningful and worth celebrating. Receptive bilinguals, for instance, may not speak a second language fluently but can deeply understand it. This isn’t a "lesser form" of bilingualism; receptive bilinguals possess unique strengths in comprehending cultural nuances and embodying unspoken traditions, allowing them to bridge cultural divides in ways that monolingual/monocultural individuals cannot.
Dominant bilinguals, who are more proficient in one language while maintaining meaningful skills in a second, bring their own distinctive contributions to the table. Consider someone who grew up speaking Spanish as their first language and learned English later in life. While they might still feel more at home speaking Spanish, they have developed strong English skills to excel in a professional setting—perhaps working as a community health worker. This person may conduct complex discussions in Spanish with patients and families while seamlessly switching to English to coordinate with medical staff. Their proficiency in both languages, though not perfectly balanced, enables them to bridge critical gaps in care, build trust, and create deeper connections. This ability to navigate multiple linguistic and cultural contexts adds real value far beyond any pursuit of native-like perfection.
Ultimately, breaking free from the unrealistic ideal of perfect bilingualism means embracing the beauty of imperfect language learning. Every step on the spectrum of bilingualism holds value, reflecting the dynamic, evolving nature of language itself. When we let go of the idea that it’s “all or nothing,” we empower more people—especially children—to approach bilingualism in meaningful, unique, and impactful ways that celebrate its messy and vibrant reality.